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There are days, am I right? Where you feel like the people around just aren’t trying or maybe they are but they are just failing in an incredible fashion.
I know I’m not the only who feels that way sometimes, and on those days it’s all too easy to criticize, to cut down, and let others know how much they’ve disappointed us. But what happens after that? Usually fights, or at the minimum hurt feelings and discouragement and ironically, I usually feel more frustrated rather than less after letting my thoughts known.
But maybe there is a better way, one that leads to encouragement and positive change. One that protects and builds relationships rather than tears them down……
By pausing and noticing the good that others are doing. By seeing their heart and acknowledging their best efforts. By sharing words of kindness and maybe an offer to help, we will find ourselves less frustrated. Our homes a little more peaceful. Our hearts a little happier.
If your feeling that way today, take a deep breath (or two or three!) then open your eyes and see if you can find the positive in those around you. If the world was filled with noticers instead of complainers, can you imagine how different it would look?
I find that positivity doesn’t come naturally though, and its easiest to critique those closest to us. One of my favorite noticer skill builders is to keep this journal.
Every day I write 3 positive things about my husband (becausehe receives the brunt of my frustration and criticism) you would not believe the difference it’s made in my life, our relationship, and by not complaining about the “problem” areas in his life and expressing gratitude for his strengths he has actually become happier and grown as a person and parent! My plan is to continue this for a couple months then tackle the next person I struggle with critiquing the most. One day at a time, one habit at a time.
So take this journal, pick whatever your most negative about and start journaling.
Everyday! It only takes a couple of minutes and it will change your life!